Some people came to this world with a high level of forbearance to condone whatever they face. The ones that dare to resist what they have always tolerated either get mortified, or lonely. But that’s where the dilemma remains; you’re alone when there isn’t anyone around, but you’re lonely when a particular someone isn’t around.
We have people in our regular lives we always depend on. Maybe our finances depend on them, maybe our jobs depend on them, or maybe our emotions depend on them. But just because someone is dependent on them, does that give them the outright authority to dissipate the value that’s there for them?
Let me get something straight, the world is never a hundred percent give and take. You might receive more love and value from someone than you ever provided with, and vice versa. You could be from a very good family which taught you to respect people. But does that respect signify that people can metamorphose that level of respect to treat you like you don’t even exist?
Toxicity doesn’t always have to be in romantic relationships. It can exist in friendships, or connections of any other category. So why should you be obliged to others indulging in making a joke out of your connection with that person? That’s where the magic comes in. Cutting them off.
Cutting them off doesn’t necessarily mean that you magically don’t think of, communicate with, or have the ability to look at that person anymore. Cutting people off does not demonstrate the fact that you’re an arrogant person, or that if you ever communicate with that person, you have to be rude. Cutting people off simply means that you get adjusted to the routine of depending on them. If you want to cut off a friend, find another, find a dozen more if you have to. If you have to stay alone, go ahead with that. At least, in that way, you don’t have to live with the guilt of your values being eroded by someone who doesn’t deserve it. Let me get this straight; no one deserves to have that authority to undermine your value, no one.
If you’re a 90’s kid, writing diaries isn’t a bad option if you have to rant. Talking to your parents, or talking about stuff to your cousins aren’t bad options either. Watch Netflix. Read books. Enjoy things that you used to enjoy when you used to be a kid. Isn’t that way better than watching your existence obliterated into pieces by not respecting your actuality?
Aren’t we all hypocrites deep down inside to spend hours behind flirting with the person we want to turn into our significant other? Aren’t we all hypocrites deep down inside to forcefully change who we are just so we can mix with ‘the gang’? Aren’t we all hypocrites deep down inside to spend hours with a colleague to know them better, and yes we are hypocrites because we never want to spend time alone to know ourselves better. Yet, it’s just us when the clock strikes three, and everyone in the house is sleeping and you’re walking in the living room holding a glass of water in your hand, thinking that you won’t be alone when the sun rises next morning.
Will you feel guilty after cutting people off? Probably. Just because someone did a lot for you doesn’t give them the right to disrespect your existence in any way. Adjustment takes time. But what good is it if you don’t learn to get adjusted to your self respect? No, you won’t think of this guilt when you go under the soil. The harsh reality.