There is a common concept which is “People will come and go in your life but the right ones will always stay”. Yes, it’s true but let’s think about it from another angle. Tell me, what are you doing to keep those people? Why would people stay in your life? Why would people keep you in their life? Okay, let’s not make it more complex.
Human is the best creature of creation, yet we are the most egoistic of them all. People are so self-esteem that they have forgotten to value other people which has broken millions of relations for no major reasons.
We only live ones, no one wants to live a complex and lonely life. So, to live a lovable life you need to follow the 3A rule and its mandatory.
If you are allergic to say sorry to others, then this 1st rule is for you.
We have all faced a time where we have been in an argument with someone and then suddenly, we stopped talking to each other. Not just arguments, we do a lot of mistakes as well for which many people get disappointed and we act in a way that we don’t care about them. And only a few times you go up to someone and apologize to someone that even for your self-esteem.
If a word or an organized sentence can make someone happy then what’s the reason for you to prioritize your ego over them.
“Good words are worth much and cost very little”- George Herbert.
Most people think that apologizing to others is like losing your own self-respect and I never understood the theory behind this illogical concept. The only thing that happens when you apologize to someone is that they admire you and values your decision.
“Never ruin an apology with an excuse”
Don’t let your ego or other bad influence get to you. Ego is temporary but blessings from the people who value you are permanent.
“Oh man I’m so ugly”, “My crush didn’t accept my proposal”, “I wish I belonged in a rich family”, “I wish my skin was brighter”, “I wish I could get the job”, “I wish I had more friends”, “I wish I had more followers in my Instagram”. Man hold up for a second. That’s a lot of disappointments for one life and if you keep on focusing on your failures, rejections, and sadness then there will be no room for improvement.
If you want to do something big in your life, something that will change your and other’s life forever then the first thing you’ll have to do is accept yourself. It’s not a joke. Most of the time people fail to deliver their finest work just because they are disappointed about themselves.
“I am my own biggest critic. Before anyone else has criticized me, I have already criticized myself. But for the rest of my life, I am going to be with me and I don’t want to spend my life with someone who is always critical. So I am going to stop being my own critic. It’s high time that I accept all the great things about me.”- C. Joybell C
Your looks and appearance don’t matter, your knowledge matters the most. Others opinion over you doesn’t matter, your determination matters the most. Continuous failure doesn’t matter, the things you learn through those failures matters the most.
“Just believe in who you are, you will be on a journey to greatness.”- Dr. Prem Jagyasi
Being disappointed about yourself is very easy because we make a lot of mistakes but only the exceptional people will stand up from the situation and take a step forward because it’s not about who you are and what you did, its about what you do next.
“Has anyone ever waited for you at the dinner table just so you don’t have to eat alone?”, “There is always that 1 friend who would lend you money when others won’t”. “Today you have an extra class, but your friend doesn’t but still he decides to wait for you just to go home together”.
These are some common events that almost everyone has faced. You might think that these are very normal, you might also take these people for granted and that is what we do wrong.
The core problem of this generation is that we don’t appreciate other’s efforts. It’s not always about the big picture but it’s the smallest things that matter. There are people who care about you, do a lot of things for you without hesitation, prioritizes you over themselves, defends you from others criticism behind you back and all you do is take them for granted.
Respecting other efforts is a priceless act which we humans fail to do. We are so busy taking care of ourselves that we never notice what others are doing for us.
“If you don’t show appreciation to those that deserve it, they’ll learn to stop doing the things you appreciate”
Just imagine, you do someone a favor and they just respond as if you are meant to do that. How would you feel? The same goes for others. Nobody loves to feel ignored and disrespected rather everyone wants their efforts to be counted. You can’t go far if you walk alone.
It’s about time, show your heartful gratitude and respect to the people who matter. A small contribution can lead to a heavenly ending.
If you ask me, the 3A’s are less knowledgeable and more about common sense. But I think the message is clear. “To live a happy and joyful life, one needs to accept himself to move forward. Reform your broken bonds with a small apology and appreciate the people who value you”
These are my 3 rules to lead an optimistic life. I wonder what your rules are.